I wanted to share something powerful that could completely transform how you approach your goals, overcome your fears, and take full control of your life. It all starts with a framework that I’m about to explain — something that the most successful Founders, Athletes, and Artists understand, yet so many overlook.

The most critical difference between those who succeed and those who don’t lies in how they view themselves and everything around them.

Hear me out, we've all heard this a hundred times. But other than that rah-rah positive self-talk and believing you can achieve anything, how do these thoughts, emotions, and actions actually reveal themselves…. Let me explain.

I wish I could take credit for this but I can’t, got it from Alex Becker. Learned more from this man than any other “Online business” guru, owner, or whatever you want to call it

This is the video

The Core Insight

Here’s the game-changing truth: You are NOT your thoughts, feelings, or environment.

Most people get trapped into identifying with every random thought, emotional wave, or external circumstance. Their feelings define them. The thoughts that run through their heads become their reality. The environment they’re surrounded by dictates their actions. But people who make progress — they know better.

They understand that thoughts, feelings, and external circumstances are merely tools. They’re not who you truly are. And the moment you realize this, you unlock a new level of personal power and control.

Not having the willpower, being afraid to start, feelings stopping you from starting - This is all it is and every super successful person has found a way to get past this.

The Three Layers Holding You Back

Let’s break this down a little further. There are three key layers that hold you back:

Feelings: These are your brain's survival mechanisms. Your brain is wired to keep you safe, and feelings like fear, anxiety, and loneliness are simply your brain's way of telling you that something is "off." These feelings are not bad — but they’re also not who you are. You don’t have to act on them.

Thoughts: The endless stream of chatter in your mind. Thoughts like, "I'm not good enough," "I'm too tired," or "I don't feel like it today" constantly pop up, justifying the feelings you’re experiencing. But these thoughts are not facts. They’re just part of the mind’s narrative.

Crowds and Your Environment: External influences that push you around. Whether it's the people around you, the news you consume, or the current state of your life, your environment can have a huge impact on how you feel and think. But again, this doesn’t define you. You are not your environment.

The Real You

So, who are you, really?

You are the observer of your thoughts, feelings, and surroundings. You’re the consciousness that experiences them. Imagine yourself as the sky — vast, stable, and unchanging — while your thoughts and feelings are like passing clouds.

Your thoughts and feelings may come and go, but the true you, your core self, remains unchanged. You are not the temporary emotions that arise or the fleeting thoughts that cross your mind.

This insight is incredibly powerful because it gives you control.

The real you is the conscious observer who can decide how to act, who can take responsibility for their life, and who can choose to move toward their goals, no matter how they feel in the moment when things like loneliness or fear pop up.

Your outer world is completely generated by you. You're this thing — we can agree just an electrical signal in your head. Every input, everything you touch, think, smell, hear, and experience is generated by an output connected to your head. Then, all the lines of code inside you break down the inputs/outputs and generate their own reality.

Practical Example: The Joe Scenario

Let me give you a practical example to make this clear. Meet Joe. Joe is working a 9-to-5 job but has a dream of learning to code and starting a software business.

Here’s how things typically go for Joe:

Typical Joe Path:

• After work, Joe feels lonely.

• He sits down to watch Suits — just one episode, he tells himself.

• The episode turns into three episodes. He justifies it: “I need to relax.”

• He ends up texting his friends to go to the bar.

• He spends money, drinks a bit too much, and gets into unnecessary arguments.

• These arguments lead to a fight, and Joe gets his head smashed with a glass beer bottle.

• At the end of the day, Joe didn’t learn how to code that night.

Now, let’s look at what Successful Joe does:

Successful Joe Path:

• Successful Joe recognizes that loneliness is just a feeling — it’s not something he has to act on.

• Instead of reaching for the remote, Joe chooses to stay home and learn Python.

• He gets uncomfortable, yes, but he keeps learning, improving, and investing in himself.

• He makes the conscious decision to move closer to his goal, even if it means taking small steps every day.

This is the key difference. Successful Joe chooses to act in spite of his feelings, his environment, and the thoughts that might say, “You don’t feel like it today” or “You deserve to take a break.”

Your Mental Toolkit
Here’s your simple mental toolkit for handling thoughts and feelings that arise:

1. Observe them without judgment. Don’t react immediately to your thoughts or emotions. Just acknowledge them.

2. Don’t engage with them. Don’t argue with them. The more you argue with a thought, the more power you give it. Thoughts and feelings are not facts, so there’s no need to engage.

3. Recognize that these thoughts and feelings are temporary. They don’t define who you are or where you’re going.

4. Consciously choose your next move. After observing and recognizing the thought or feeling, ask yourself, "What’s the best decision right now?" and take action accordingly.

This is how you break free from the cycle of reacting to your thoughts and feelings. Instead, you become the conscious creator of your reality.

Their responses, whether good or bad, will be constant. You need to get over that first hump of discomfort and change the wiring from the inside out.

“The only way out is through.” Just don’t pay attention to them.

 Key Takeaway
These two parts are fighting inside you: the logical thinker and the Bit#h. The logical thinker asks, "What do we want to achieve here?" If you respond based on the layers around you, you’ll find it has nothing to do with what you actually want.

Identifying with your thoughts is insane. They’re like little animals running around with two goals in mind: [Survive and Reproduce].

You need to think critically and ask: "What does the consciousness want to achieve?"

This is why so many people can’t get things done and why so many seem crazy. They identify with the stupidity running wild inside their heads. The truth is, 98 out of 100 thoughts are useless.

Next time a distracting thought or feeling pops up, try this simple trick:

• Acknowledge it without judgment. Simply say, “Interesting thought, but I don’t have to act on it.”

At the bare minimum, next weekend when you get back from work, don’t turn on Netflix or call your friends to go out. Learn to code some Python.

Talk soon,
Vice